Do you ever just start casually rooting around in someone's likes/interests/followings and realize there's a part of them you never knew about? Has it ever made you reconsider a lot about what you thought you knew about them or changed your opinion on them? Have you ever considered seriously adjusting your relationship with them since you don't think you'll ever be able to provide them with what they appear to be interested in? What about stepping away from that person entirely based on what you found?
Because if you have... gosh, that must be a totally normal and not-at-all jarring experience or something.
reddyxu
More often than not, I'm afraid. I could be going around in their profile and find some slightly creepy interests or they themselves admit about it once they get accustomed to me.
Most of the time it's usually something somewhat completely normal, so it would be okay by my side. Other times they would have interests that I believe only a stalker would have to be honest.
It all really depends how much you know that person and if you're okay with what they're doing. I had a friend from Finland who was okay for the most part but overtime became very abusive and had creepy interests and talking about his problems seemed nigh impossible, so permablocking was the only way to go.
I would say to choose your friends carefully but be sure to check what they're into from time to time. If they're okay, they're good to go! Otherwise, better off not talking to them. :p
luxrayluv
I think that's some good advice, thank you! Nobody is perfect, and I try not to judge based solely on a few of their interests or anything like that, but it's tricky sometimes. I'm mostly wondering if now, whenever I talk to them, what I found out is going to be flitting in and out of the back of my mind. Does that make sense?
It feels like it would be unfair to break away from someone based on some of their more... unique interests (so long as they/those interests aren't harming anyone).
Thanks again for your input, it's always helpful to be reminded that these types of things do happen to others and things can turn out okay in the end :-)